- advises against the ‘Pull Her Down’ syndrome
Women Against Rape (WAR) Executive Director, Peggy Ramaphane, has urged women and young girls to abandon the “pull her down” syndrome, describing it as a common and destructive habit within their ranks.
Speaking at the International Women’s Day commemoration held in Sedie Ward this week under the theme “Give to Gain: Advancing Justice, Equality, and Empowerment for Women and Girls,” Ramaphane stated that this syndrome contributes to the vulnerability and victimisation of women by men.
“As women, we have a tendency to look down upon one another. Body shaming, badmouthing, and backbiting are far too common. We tear each other down instead of supporting and lifting each other up,” Ramaphane said.
She advised women to normalise sharing resources, knowledge, and opportunities with those in need, noting that women often face significant barriers that limit their progress in life. She stressed that challenges such as poverty and Gender-Based Violence (GBV) disproportionately affect women and girls, many of whom remain dependent on men to the point of enduring abuse.
Ramaphane highlighted the importance of women and girls uniting and collaborating with men and boys to promote peace, security, and safety at both the household and national levels.
During the event, participants discussed societal issues affecting women, arguing that culture, tradition, and norms often relegate them to an inferior status. They noted that women are frequently sidelined in decision-making processes, such as bride price negotiations and inheritance divisions.
Participants also noted they are often deemed unqualified for jobs in construction, driving, plumbing, and carpentry due to their gender. Furthermore, they expressed concern over being excluded from leadership roles in churches, wedding ceremonies, and politics, even when qualified.
Another major concern raised was the delay in GBV court proceedings. Ramaphane acknowledged these delays, stating they are a significant challenge that WAR is currently battling. She explained that a primary factor slowing down cases, particularly rape and defilement, is the shortage of forensic laboratories in the country.
She highlighted that specimen tests can take up to a year to complete, during which time court cases remain stalled. This prolonged process often leads complainants to give up on their pursuit of justice. However, she noted that bail conditions have improved, with courts now ensuring that the release of a perpetrator does not threaten the life of the complainant.
Abaleng Khombani, a Senior Gender Officer from the Gender Affairs office, also urged women and girls to seek professional guidance and counselling when in distress. Khombani advised participants to learn their rights and responsibilities to better understand their equality with men.
